It is ok not to be ok during your divorce. After all, according to Psychology Today, the mental trauma most experience when ending a marriage is second only to the death of a close loved one. While it may be tempting to try to white-knuckle your way through, you may need some professional health.
Divorce therapists meet with those who are ending their marriages to try to help them combat the emotional fallout from their divorces. Here are three signs you should consider going to divorce therapy.
1. You cannot accept your marriage is over
If you tried repeatedly to salvage your marriage, it may be difficult to accept it is really over. Being in denial, though, does not do you much good. If you are hoping to reunite with your soon-to-be ex-spouse or trying to delay your inevitable divorce, you might benefit from divorce therapy.
2. You cannot make necessary decisions
Ending any marriage requires making many different decisions, ranging from living arrangements and property division to child custody and spousal support. If you are having trouble being decisive, a divorce therapist may be able to recommend some coping strategies that immediately help.
3. You are neglecting your children
It can be easy to withdraw during a divorce. Still, your children need you to be emotionally present. If you are neglecting your children or feel like a bad parent, you should discuss your mental health with a divorce therapist.
Ultimately, while it may be expensive and time-consuming, divorce therapy can help you get through this rough patch and start your post-divorce life in an emotionally healthy place.