If you are a parent, you undoubtedly understand the importance of leaving your children with only responsible, ethical and caring babysitters. Your ex-spouse, though, may be a bit more cavalier. Still, according to Psychology Today, the babysitter you use can have a significant effect on your children’s physical, mental and emotional well-being.
Unfortunately, if you and your former partner share custody of your children, you are going to have to defer to his or her parenting style during your non-parenting time. Nevertheless, by putting a first right of refusal clause into your custody agreement, you may be able to keep your ex from picking an irresponsible babysitter.
What does a first right of refusal clause do?
In simple terms, a first right of refusal clause requires your ex to ask you to babysit when he or she is not able to watch the kids during his or her parenting time. Accordingly, not only does a first right of refusal clause allow you to maintain some control over who watches your children, but it might also give you more time with your kids.
Do you have to agree?
Even though your ex-spouse must ask you to babysit before asking anyone else, a first right of refusal clause does not require you to babysit. If you are unwilling, unavailable or otherwise unable to babysit, you have the option of declining. Still, to comply with your custody agreement, your ex-spouse must give you the opportunity either to agree to babysit or to reject the task.
Ultimately, if your ex-spouse surrounds himself or herself with irresponsible or unsavory individuals, having a first right of refusal is sure to put your mind at ease.