Reinventing your life after divorce is often one of the most challenging aspects of the process. Particularly if you and your ex-spouse hold your children in joint custody, you will have to figure out a way to manage this.
Traditionally, families after divorce set up separate households and the children move between them. However, this is not the best option for all Hoosier families. According to Psychology Today, nesting is an alternative living arrangement that allows the children to stay in one domicile while the parents do the moving in and out according to the custody schedule.
How is this beneficial?
Moving children frequently can be difficult for multiple reasons. Traditionally, older children tend to resent moving every other week between households. If you have older children, nesting for two or three years can allow your kids to finish high school. Once they graduate, you can then dissolve the family home.
Families with special-needs children also benefit from nesting. Moving a special needs child frequently might be dangerous for the child and a very stressful process for the parents. Nesting allows the child to stay in the same household 100% of the time. Nesting is also useful for families that live in expensive areas. If you would not be able to live in your current neighborhood as a single economic entity, nesting might be the only way to keep your children in the same school district.
Who should not nest?
Nesting requires good communication between the parents. If you and your ex-spouse are not on talking terms, it is unlikely that you will be able to nest effectively. Nesting is a new and unique solution that serves the needs of many Hoosier families.